The very best countermeasure I have isn't one of my fancy cameras, or the freq counter, or any of the other little toys I've amassed over the past 13 years. The day it dawned on me to IGNORE perp behavior, I discovered a valuable coping tool. My life improved and I began to feel a little better because I was doing something besides participating in the "game" right along with the stalkers. There are a lot of them, but without little old ME, there IS NO GAME. It's like trying to play basketball without the ball. To me, this is a real forehead slapper!
I've recently been doing a bit more surfing around than usual, and am amazed at how TIs focus on things like cars w/o hubcaps, cars passing each other at the end of your driveway and other screwy behavior. This is meant to get TIs FULLY engaged and playing the game. Perps refuse to leave us any real evidence and throw us the crumbs like synch driving behavior so they can get a good laugh. Sure, we may be lean in the evidence department, but 4 cars driving by missing a hubcap is not something I want to video and give to the District Attorney, then ask him to prosecute them for harassing me.
If you can not gather useful information/evidence, IGNORE what they are doing - especially when they can not be identified in the picture/video. I know ignoring the behavior is not always prudent or safe to do, but for the stupid stuff and the tactics designed to elicit an emotional response - you can ignore them.
Another VERY good reason to IGNORE your perps' behavior (unless it is truly life threatening) is because by so doing, you are withholding feedback. Perps may have spent a lot of time studying you at the onset of GS, but you have evolved into a different person and there is no way for them to know how you will react, UNLESS YOU REACT. If they try a new tactic, they watch you to see what kind of reaction you have, to know for sure whether it worked or not. It is really only common sense that if you react negatively, they will continue doing what you do not like. If you "steel yourself" and force yourself to show no reaction, the new tactic will stop a whole lot quicker than if you start crying or swearing at them.
One last benefit which is important and needs to be mentioned is that if you ignore your perps on a consistent basis and pretty much let them do what they want (in a controlled way), they relax and get sloppy about seeing you as a threat. They simply figure they have beaten you down and you are not capable of resistance (see you as now being under control). Trust me when I say that with a little thought and planning on your part, you might just be able to spring some impressive set-ups and traps on them (no, not bear traps). If you do it right, they will never suspect or see it coming.
Before I get comments hurled at me re "letting them have their way and do what they want", consider that they are pretty much going to do what they want whether you try to stop them or not. The less you show you care what they do or even notice that they are doing it, the quicker the tactic/behavior will stop.
Stick a pin in their balloon so they don't get to enjoy themselves so much at your expense.
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I couldn't agree with you more, Michael! Ignoring is the best defense because if you react and let them know something bothers you, you will truly be driven crazy by that tactic. Ignoring is your best defense against a given behavioral tactic.
This should give everyone a smile. There's a new tactic being tried out on me and although a bit annoying and worrisome, I have steadfastly remained silent and oblivious. This has been going on for a little over a week off an on. Apparently it entails bringing some device with them and they have to be in attendance to use it. When I open the door, they quickly take flight and the tactic stops. It resumes in about 5 minutes after I come back inside. Sometimes I pretend I'm walking toward the door, and the tactic magically stops (my way to give them some exercise).
Well, being Friday night last night, they came and brought their friends around 6pm and have been doing this new tactic around the clock - still doing it even now - no breaks, so they must be working in shifts. I wake up and go to the bathroom, and they are still hanging around outside my house doing the tactic.
You have to see the humor in this. Talk about playing basketball without the ball. I'm seriously beginning to think there isn't an ounce of intelligence in any of them. Who the hell stands/sits around alone night and day passively doing something for which they get no response? What a boring way to spend your life. I think my life is better than theirs at this point.
And WE are the ones Civilians think are mentally unhinged and have a screw loose?
Losing your temper is another whole topic unto itself. Some days, I feel like I have a split personality bcz half of me is cognizant of some outrageous perp behavior, while the other half stubbornly refuses to be sucked in and react. I've trained myself to hear that emotional warning bell and focus all my attention on taking ONE very deep breath, and letting it out slowly. Then I find my mp3 player and get involved in listening to a good book on tape. I absolutely love Harlan Coben, Clive Cussler, David Baldacci, Orson Scott Card, Michael Connelly, Robert Crais, and that's just authors at the top of my list. I find that within a few seconds of having cleared my emotional turmoil and gotten "plugged in", I am totally absorbed and whatever the perps' tactic was, is quickly forgotten.
IGNORING the IGNORANT has truly been a lifesaver coping skill.
I speak plainly Bill, for the newly afflicted who read this.